The reality about being over 45 and conceiving naturally
It’s not often I rant — however I’m going to this morning.
About once a month I receive an email from a mom who has conceived naturally without help, who is over the age of 45 and has had a child that’s healthy.
I am genuinely happy for this mom that her LGE ( last good egg) baby was born without any complications and healthy. Because I feel babies are wonderful and that if you want to become a parent you should.
What I don’t appreciate are emails judging our organization intimating that we are deceiving the masses about fertility and that we need to be encouraging our women 40 and over that Egg Donation is not the solution but that diligence, faith, and dedication to giving a baby is.
My thinking is that these women have blinders on because they did get pregnant and they did have a baby whereas many of our intended mothers over 40 struggle valiantly to do just that.
The reality is if you are 40 and over your ability to have a child without aid and with your own genetics falls to about 5-7%. Once you reach the age of 42 to 44 that percentage drops to about 2%. And when you hit the magic age of 45 your percentage drops even lower to about 1%.
To add insult to injury – those women over 40 that are pregnant with their own eggs have a much higher incidence of miscarriage – in fact, miscarriage rates begin to skyrocket in your 40s! From age 40 to 44, the rate is 35 percent, and it dramatically rises rises to more than 50 percent for women 45 and older (compared to 10 percent at age 20 and 12 percent at age 30).
So please pay attention to your fertility – do not be little lured, lulled or enticed in anyway thinking that your fertility is safe and that once you hit 40 it’s going to be a picnic to have a baby.
The reality is – it’s not.
Remember – we assist over 9,000 intended parents and parents via egg donation each year. I receive about 12 emails a year from women 45 and over who have had their child with their own eggs and conceived naturally. That’s a little over 1% The population that contacts us.
You do the math.