Mom: There Are Other Things To Hate You For Than Donor Egg.

By on November 16, 2008

Okay – so my child and I are talking this morning about current events – he
thinks for instance that banks trick us when they charge us interest when we
buy a house or a car which frankly makes me laugh. My child has such a cool view of the world — I so wish I viewed it like him.

Anyhow, as I said — we were talking, and I am not sure how it came up but I
said, “You know I could really use your help, I know of some Mom’s out
there who are feeling sort of nervous about the whole donor egg thing and
telling their kids.”

He was sitting next to me at the time and looking very thoughtful said “Sure
I can help, what’s up?” So I explained to him how some parents worry about
being rejected from their children if they should disclose the donor egg
aspect to them, and some parents worry that their children might even hate them.”

So my ever thoughtful child is quiet for a moment, I can see his little mind working and he says:

“Oh come on Mom – kids from DE are NOT going to hate their parents because
they had to use an egg from someone else. There are more important things
to hate your parents over!”

By now I am sitting up straight on the couch, and I twitched a moment, running through my head many scenarios in which he’d hate me for and I said “Oh yeah, like
what?” as I narrowed my eyes.

With a gleam in his eye he delves right in as if he’s an attorney at the Supreme Court arguing his case: Okay Mom, you asked for it, here’s my short list:

“No electronics during the week? Come On! That is RIDICULOUS! I hate that!
My bed time at 8:00 PM when Grace and Nate across the street who are MY age
get to stay up until 9:00 PM, I hate that too. And just because Dr. Alexander
says only 1 hour of screen time a day during the weekends, well that’s
silly, you are my Mom, not him! I really hate that.

He ponders a moment, his hand on a his chin — Let’s see what else
Mom – “Why is it you have to watch a movie first or with me, I think I am
only enough to watch a PG movie BY MYSELF! You don’t let me watch what I
want on TV, you have to see it with me – and Oh, and the fact I can’t keep
my room anyway I want, that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. So you
see mom, there are WAYYYYY more important things for kids to hate their kids
over than this whole DE egg thing, gosh!”

By now he’s laughing out of the ridiculousness out of my original question and I am trying so hard to keep a straight face, as I want him to know I am taking him seriously.

I hugged him and thanked him for his sage advice and asked him if I could share this with other parents. He said he didn’t care, and he asked me if he could go watch “Fairly Odd Parents” I said “No, that’s not an okay show to watch.” So he gave me a raspberry and left to go read Harry Potter for the umpteenth time throwing over his shoulder – “You have no idea how hard it is being a kid!”

So you see, there are way more important things to hate your parents over
instead of DE.

Now if you excuse me, I have to go laugh some place where he won’t hear me- after all my child is only eight.

Note I said “eight” not eighteen.




Portland, OR

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