Guest Post: How to Tell Your Kid She was Conceived via DEIVF
Today’s guest post was written by Lauren — proud mama of a plucky little rainbow who was conceived thanks to egg donation. Lauren writes about her journey on her blog, On Fecund Thought.
A version of this post first appeared on OnFecundThought.com on April 6, 2015.
Before I cycled, I was sort of freaking out on Twitter about how to tell my (hopefully) future kid that he or she came to us via the egg donor we’d just picked. It was November 2013 and you might say that’s when shit got real.
Fortune shone a light on me in that moment. Marna from Parents via Egg Donation (PVED.org) happened to be on Twitter at that time and said I was welcome to call her.
I am? I asked, incredulous that she would take the time to talk to me.
Of course! she winked.
Like, now? I double-checked.
She seemed emphatic, so I dialled her number.
Marna’s advice in a sentence: Start early and do it often.
How early? Start when you’re pregnant.
Whoa. I mean, that really is early, isn’t it? But around 28 weeks, the point at which I was finally able to relax and enjoy my pregnancy, and when I knew my daughter could hear, I began.
When she was two months old, friends asked how I planned to tell her. I grinned and said, “Well, I’m working out the flow of the story, but it goes a little something like this…”
Talking About DEIVF with My Baby Daughter
You can hear the baby making noises in this clip.
When I called Marna, what I didn’t know at the time is that she is a mom via egg donation and founded PVED so that no other parent would have to go through the DEIVF process alone, like she did.
If this post has helped you, it’s indirectly because of PVED. Please consider making a donation today.